A bit quieter of a day thus far, although it was a pleasant morning. After some grouchiness from Larry because he didn’t want to eat and take pills while in the bed, and wanted to be moved to the couch, he was alert and wanted to watch Star Wars again. He also ate his French toast that Fran wonderfully made, and it was a good experience. Only made it to about the 1.5 hour mark in the movie though and I could tell he just needed more rest, so he’s sleeping now. He’s wheezing a bit more than normal, and that I guess is to be expected and why we have the oxygen tanks. We’re also expecting a visit from a rabbi today, which may be good.
The rabbi came by and it was a good visit – the rabbi was orthodox, but he was very very personable and relatable. He did some prayers with Larry and Larry was able to repeat and follow along with them. Nicki was also there for this at this time and it was frankly a nice experience. The Rabbi wanted us to definitely do the last night of Hanukkah – which we did. We did finish up the rest of the Star Wars then, and let Larry then sleep.
Nicki hung out with me and watched TV (we watched the first 2 hours of the Witcher) and it was clear by the evening that Larry’s lucidity was wearing away. Who he was in the morning was a far cry from who he was by night. We all watched the movie 1917 (fantastic, btw) and Larry was in and out. I tried to talk to Larry a bit while we were all starting to get to sleep in hopes maybe there was some lucidity – as I wanted to know what he preferred for his final wishes. He just didn’t know. Fran has told me that his grandfather has already purchased plots for him back in New Jersey, and I am good with that being the path forward. I know I’ll be back there to visit him in person, but I also know that I don’t need a gravesite to memorialize him. Mila and I were discussing it today (Dec 30) and I think something like a small garden of sorts on the roof deck would be wonderful. I just can’t fucking believe this. Nicki was flying back to Florida tomorrow, so this was effectively her saying goodbye to Larry. She had a moment crying with me before she left, which was the first time she’s really broken down. I obviously know what she’s feeling. When I left myself truly feel these moments, I can’t help but cry.
The last pictures of us with Larry are below, with him somewhat lucid. It is devastating to know that, writing this from late January. It’s so ungodly fair this happened.
This morning started out with Alyssa leaving and saying her goodbyes with Larry one last time. Later that morning, Stacie and Trent came over to visit with Larry. It was a very nice time spent with them – I’m glad they could do so, as we were able to reminisce a little and just have a nice conversation with Larry. They left before noon and we then got Larry downstairs. It was very hard to have him go up and down stairs. A nurse from True Care was coming at 1pm, and we also had Nicki, Sveta, and Mila coming over. Not only that, I had been able to reach out to friends in the industry (George and Greg, effectively) about a Star Wars Rise of Skywalker screener and Greg had one! He wasn’t in town on Thursday, but managed to FedEx it to us overnight so it got here in the morning today. Not only that, but he also sent Uncut Gems, 1917, and Frozen 2. Unbelievable. The nurse’s visit was good, and she encouraged us to move the hospital bed to the living room level, which honestly made the most sense so he’d have TV, be around everyone, and not have to deal with stairs anymore. So we cleared out the area around where the Eames chair was, moving that over by the dining room table, and made room for the hospital bed to be relocated. The highlight of the day was of course getting to watch Star Wars! It was a lot of fun, a lot of the criticism is warranted, but it’s still one hell of a ride. Very enjoyable, but still like The Last Jedi the best of this new trilogy. Larry couldn’t really stay awake for most of it and was in and out, but I tried my best to keep him engaged.
Afterwards, we all just had a pleasant evening hanging out, drinking wine, telling stories, lighting Hanukkah candles, laughing, crying, playing Cards Against Humanity, eating Taco Bell. I love my friends so much and they’ve been a godsend in this. I don’t know what I’d do without them, as well as Fran and Joel obviously. It was the first night that Larry spent down in the living room and I slept on the couch near him. It wasn’t easy. He peed once in the night which went well as I had him stand up, but the second time he did it laying down into the urinal and it was a mess. Had to change the bed, do the sheets and his clothes, change his clothes to be clean, and then finally put him back to sleep. I’m a little tired today (Sunday).
Michancy arrived! She flew in for the holidays (22-26) so I picked her up at Burbank where she had a much more easy journey than the Thanksgiving one. The day itself was very uneventful – just hanging out at home while keeping Larry company. He’s gotten kind of loopy lately, and very very tired. It’s hard to ignore it as guess what, he’s fading. But we persist in making him eat and surround him with love and comfort. Can we get a miracle?
It was also the first night of Hanukkah, so I was able to give to Larry and Fran the copies of the wedding album. I think he was able to appreciate it, although I’m sure he was just as sad as I was to see ourselves just like 3.5 years ago and know where we are now. It’s not fucking fair.
It’s that time of year again where we get to burn some candles and sing some songs and celebrate the time of Hanukkah! It’s the first night and we got a nice surprise with Alyssa and Jon and Stacy calling. Here are some pics from our own menorah celebration:
I took today off, or rather I kept today as a vacation day even though it was originally supposed to be Day 2 at Disneyland. It DID rain today and that’s a good thing as if it hadn’t rained, that would have meant that we cancelled for no reason. That would have been unacceptable. Ended up using the time nicely though and got to the Glendale Galleria and while it was still fairly crowded, it wasn’t the shitshow that I’m sure it was this past weekend and what it will be certainly like this upcoming weekend. NO GRACIAS.
And for your daily dose of randomness, here’s the commercial airing now that is cracking me the hell up. It’s from Geico and has Salt N’ Pepa in it singing their song, “Push It”, while encouraging numerous random people to push things. It’s AWESOME.
I love that they look so excited to tell people to push it. It’s the best thing.