Larry’s West Coast Memorial is this weekend

I haven’t posted yet my thoughts from around Larry’s funeral earlier this month back in New Jersey, as I’ve been chronologically adding back in journal entries to the site.  Needless to say, the funeral was a lot to deal with.  This weekend, we are having Larry’s memorial for those who were not able to make it to New Jersey for the funeral or sitting shiva.   It will be at my wonderful friend Barb’s house and I think it will be much less intense than the funeral.   I can’t deny that I’m starting to have some stress about it, as this will be a lot of people who were in my and Larry’s lives on a regular basis all coming to think and remember him.  These past two weeks have not been easy – Larry’s absence is entirely all-consuming.  I don’t know who I am or how to be without him.  And that will be first and foremost in my mind as we celebrate him this weekend.

I should probably relax a little though – I’m going to have so many friends around me, as well as some family.  Not sure if I’m going to say anything, but if so, it obviously won’t be the same as what I said at the funeral.  I’m happy that Michancy is coming into town tonight.  I’m going to take tomorrow off as I think just relaxing is needed ahead of this weekend.

While futzing around this site, I found myself back in posts I made back in 2008 when Larry and I were first starting to date.   I then cried when reading the post when I asked him to be my boyfriend.  I can remember those moments so clearly, but it is so nice to have something written down from at the time to see how optimistic and hopeful I was.   Let’s see if that kind of energy can return to me.

Guinan Returns

I just saw that on The View today, Patrick Stewart was on to talk about his show, Star Trek: Picard, which is premiering on CBS All Access this week.  So right out of the gate, this news just is so bittersweet, as I know Larry was so excited to see the return of Jean Luc Picard to television.  I will wait until after the show premieres to post the pictures and video I have, but Larry was able to go with his good friend Greg and visit the set of the show in Santa Clarita this past fall.  Talk about an awesome treat.   He didn’t get to meet Patrick Stewart unfortunately, but he did get to go on the set of the show’s spaceship as well as see a couple scenes being filmed, notably one with Jeri Ryan.  But Larry died too soon to be able to get to see the show itself.

That was preamble to the news today from The View:  Patrick Stewart extended an invitation to Whoopi Goldberg to be on Season 2 of Picard.  So. Fucking. Cool.   Larry would have been so excited to learn that news.   I know stuff like this may seem trivial but goddamn Larry loved ST:TNG and the return of the cast in Picard was something that made him happy.  And god damn the fact that he died of cancer so fucking soon.  I’ll never be okay with this.

Larry Loved: Stereogum’s ‘The Number Ones’ article series

Don’t hold me to this, but I think I want to capture some of those things that Larry loved and write about them on my site.   Something that immediately came to mind was the article series on the Stereogum website:

https://www.stereogum.com/category/franchises/the-number-ones/

The author, Tom Breihan, has written about every single #1 song on the Billboard Hot 100 charts since it’s inception in 1958.   As of today, he’s currently up to January 1979, where we are still apparently in the clutch of disco (nothing wrong with that).   Larry loved to always talk about what song was #1 during someone’s birthday – on his birthday, it was Earth, Wind & Fire’s “Shining Star”, which really is a fantastic song.

For my birthday, it was one of Larry’s favorite bands:  Chicago’s “If You Leave Me Now”.   I narrowly avoided it being Rick Dees’ “Disco Duck”, so thank god for small miracles.

This past year, Larry thoughtfully sent along the article for when it was ABBA’s “Dancing Queen”.   The write-up is beautiful, frankly, so read it, and the song does mean a lot to me.   It was the last song we danced to at our wedding reception, and just for that alone it will be forever special.  Plus, it’s just pure ABBA perfection.

Larry just loved lists like these – he was so happy to get the comprehensive book containing the listing of every Television show up through like early 2000s.   It was something I loved so dearly about him, as he was just so into stuff and I couldn’t help but be into it too.

A Knives Out Wednesday

I went into PwC DTLA today to get my laptop issues resolved.  Took some time but it was a nice mental break, although I couldnt’ stop from crying when I visited with Derrick briefly.  It was also raining like crazy today, which made it annoying.  Larry got gaggy as I had asked for him to shower today, which he hadn’t done for quite a while.   The stress of the shower itself is a lot, and I’ve already bought a shower seat for him, as well as brought up a chair for him to sit on if necessary in the bathroom.  I got home around 1 with lunch, and then played some Jedi Fallen Order, which is a GREAT video game.   I also was weak and bought myself a Valve Index VR kit for my computer.   I won’t get it probably till next year.  Oh well, my Christmas gift to myself, I guess?  I was texting with Nicki today and I think the thing I’d like to get for Larry is a wedding album finally.  I think that will mean more than some thing.  Who knows.   Anyway, we then finally got to see Knives Out!

It was a lot of fun, and I am so happy that Rian Johnson is making great movies.  I still absolutely love watching The Last Jedi.  Such a great movie.  Nicki joined us for that at our Cinemark theater right here which is just fantastic.   Who would think that from how it looks on the outside, but it is wonderful little theater.  Will be interesting to see if the NoHo West has a movie complex there when it opens?  Could signal the end for this one?   But the prices here are just incredibly cheap and the seats are all recliner, which makes it lux.   Tomorrow we go to Santa Monica UCLA to sign the paperwork and get the clinical trials started.

Oh also the new James Bond movie trailer came out for ‘No Time to Die’.   Looks intriguing so far!

Just December 3

Not much we did today.  Joel left first thing this morning so we didn’t hear him.   Basically hung out at home.  I did try to log into work and spent some time on the phone with IT as a certificate expired and also my login got all sorts of fucked.  Anyway, we had a nice day regardless.   Made a call to Brandon of the UCLA clinical trial team and we are going to go forward with it, although we didn’t hear back from him that day.

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