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Michancy Visited

This past weekend obviously was focused on Larry’s memorial, and to be able to make it through that without losing my mind, Michancy came down and stayed with me for the weekend.  She finally got to stay in the guest room too!

The visit was wonderful – she flew in on Thursday evening to Burbank Airport (yay!), and on Friday I took the day off so we could hang out.   We swung by a dispensary to stock up, and for the first time in a long while, I smoked some weed.  And if you just manage to pace yourself, it’s amazing.   We just hung out and watched TV (I was inspired to watch MacGruber because of the “Unspooled” podcast – very dumb movie, but still hilarious;  we also watched the first episode of Picard and it was very very good.  Again, I’m so pissed Larry wasn’t able to see it), and then that night, we sat out on the patio and drank, smoked weed, and had a dance party.   Every Friday night should be so chill.

On Saturday, the chilling continued.  We watched Looper that morning, and having not seen it since 2012, I had forgotten how fucking gREAT it is.  Rian Johnson is a helluva storyteller.  Also watched Across the Universe that evening as I was in the mood for some Julie Taymor Beatles fun, although even though it’s a spectacle, the story really is just kinda dumb.   The performances of the songs really are what make the movie.

Sunday was obviously the memorial, and then afterward when we got back, we just relaxed some more and watched some ST:TNG episodes, and watched one that was relevant to Picard, “The Measure of a Man”.  TNG is a good series, but I just couldn’t watch it as much as Larry could.   I have started listening to the podcast Larry loved, “Star Trek: The Next Conversation”, as they talked about the first episode of Picard.  I ended up writing them a message letting them know about Larry’s death as he had been an occasional mention on the show and each time that happened, Larry just got so happy.

Anyway, I’m so glad to have spent this weekend with Michancy.  Never a dull moment, and she indulged my wine drinking, so yay me.

The Battle is Over

We came back to the hospital in the morning, bringing Michancy with us this time.  She had ended up staying home on Monday (day drinking, eating, Netflix watching).  When we got there, Larry’s levels were improving but it was still a struggle. He had a bit more lucidness but there was still a lot of confusion.  Mila and Sveta came out for the day as well.  Dr Weinberg was who was able to come and consult, and we learned what we basically knew what was coming – Larry’s not going to recover or continue his treatment.  He is going to die.  Within weeks.  It is not a surprise to hear these words, but to say that my heart didn’t get ripped out regardless would be a lie.  We spent a lot of time that day with him, rotating in the room as only 2 are allowed at a time in the ICU.  Mila brought bagels and nosh, Sveta brought Xanax, and it was time for us to grieve and cry in the waiting room.  I’m writing this from Thursday (the 26th), so I have a bit of a detachment from the day just because of time and the interim moments we’ve had, but it was a horrible day.  Dr Weinberg sent a recommendation for hospice care, and we started that process going.  It seems like that will be a wonderful comfort as they will take care of quite a lot.  He will not have pain, and he will be surrounded by love.  As the day progressed and his levels continued to stabilize, his awareness was better.  He did ask what Fran and I talked about with Dr Weinberg, and I had to tell the love of my life that he no longer had any options and we were going to go home to live out the rest of his days. I had to tell him he was going to die.

Mila and Sveta both left after 3-4 hours, but it was wonderful they were there.  Michancy remained as she’s staying with us, and she and I were able to be there for each other.  We did not have  anyone stay over that night as it just isn’t really a helpful thing.  So we all headed back to home that night, and we ate leftovers from our dinner the previous night that we ordered from a nearby-to-the-hospital Izzy’s Deli, which was chicken soup, a French dip sandwich, and other leftover food.  That night at home, the 4 of us sat at the dining table and looked through pictures and told stories, laughing and crying.  Michancy and I also drank far more wine than we should have – but it was cathartic.  Larry will never be forgotten and has had an impact in so many lives.

End of the Thanksgiving Weekend

We had a nice morning – Michancy helped us to file for Full Disability for Larry.   Also talked with her about establishing a trust, which may be necessary although we have most big things shared already.  I think having our wills in place is important, but we are going to look into maybe talking to a trust attorney.  Alas, Michancy was flying back today, and hopefully it’s less stressful this time than coming in.  I dropped her off at Burbank just now, and there was a great amount of traffic but most of it was Uber and Lyft as there were a TON of people arriving today.  Dropping off was easy.

Once back, then Nicki came over as did Jon & Alyssa with the girls.   It was a lot of fun.   First, Nicki & I played a game of Santorini, and I think I got her hooked. I won.  We then watched, via Nicki’s Sony Screeners app, the latest Charlie’s Angels movie, which honestly, just wasn’t all that good.  But free!   It was a tough day though, as Alyssa and I talked about things at a much more visceral level.  If Larry dies, I think it’s agreed he’ll be buried back east.  I hope I can get a space near him. Had a wonderful time though overall, and Jon & Alyssa made us all dinner.  At night, Larry & I got to watch the latest Watchmen, and goddamn that show is amazing.

It’s currently the end of Thanksgiving weekend, and it’s been a whirlwind.  In a good way.

Day After Thanksgiving Fun

This was a fun day after Thanksgiving.  No Black Friday craziness.   Jon/Alyssa came over in the morning.   Michancy, Jon & I went to Target, a pot dispensary, and a wine store to stock up on stuff.   Then in the afternoon, we went to see Frozen 2 at the Universal AMC.   Larry and Michancy stayed back.   Frozen 2 was very fun.  The first Frozen is still probably the better of the two, but undeniably entertaining regardless.  In the evening, we played Pictionary, which Larry was able to enjoy too.  Drank a good amount of wine that night.

Michancy Arrives!

Michancy arrived!   The effort was a little more than expected as she flew in to Burbank to keep things easier, but her flight got diverted to Ontario as the weather was such shit that day.  So while I had gone to Burbank to pick her up in the morning, that was for nothing.  So while that situation was getting sorted out, Joel and I went to Whole Foods in Sherman Oaks to pick up my Thanksgiving order – surprisingly, it wasn’t the shit show I was expecting.   Sure, the parking lot was crowded but what is nuts is that somehow you can get a spot there.   I think because it’s a smaller store that you really aren’t chilling there, you’re shopping and going.  Anyway, our order was ready pretty quickly and we were back home to store the goods in the refrigerator, which was nicely empty after clearing it out on Monday night to try to make sure we didn’t have an insane trash situation and get everything out for the Tuesday pickup.   With last week’s skipped trash situation, it was a bit of stress.   Today was also the day for Larry to get his portable pump removed – I had expected to be able to go but Michancy’s flight was now hopping over from Ontario to Burbank at that time, so I instead picked her up while Fran and Joel went with Larry to take care of that (and get my caregiver leave forms, which frustratingly were only half done but happily Fran caught that before leaving).  By the evening, we were all home and happy to be inside due to the rain!