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Week One Complete + All Sorts of Other Stuff

Yep, the first week of Larry’s chemotherapy is complete.  It’s been a whirlwind, a rollercoaster, and exhausting, and I don’t recommend it for anyone.  But it’s all in service of the fight that we will be winning, and I am frankly glad to get it started.  No more quarter for these fucking cancer cells in Larry’s liver.  No. More. Quarter.   Get the fuck out.

The beginning of the week was when Larry had to go and sit in the treatment center for about 3 hours hooked up to an IV.  He’s taking the Folfox treatment chemotherapy which is the standard method of treating colorectal cancer.  We didn’t do Avastin this round, which will likely be back for Round 2.   With this therapy regimen, Larry will go every 2 weeks.

On day one of each cycle, he’ll get chemo in the center.  Before he leaves, the staff then attaches an infusion pump that attaches to his port and he carries around with him, which keeps administering the chemo.  He keeps the pump with him for the next 48 hours, and after that, can then go back in and have the pump removed.   His regimen is then over for the next 1.5 weeks.  All things considered, it is something he has to deal with for like a full 2 days, but after that, he can get back to just building his strength and living his life.

Obviously it doesn’t come without side effects.   Neuropathy, nausea, and fatigue are the main ones we experienced, but I don’t think they were too overwhelmingly bad this round.   I don’t know what we can expect as this continues, but I do know the key is to keep him eating, drinking, and exercising.  So that’s what we’ll be doing, dammit.

To prepare for naps and relaxation on the couch, we got some help from Nicki to go to our storage unit and grab the chaise part of the sectional couch.  We’d put it away as our apartment just really wasn’t big enough to have it present…but now it’s like, fuck it, we want to be comfortable!

Honestly, while the walking space was intruded upon, you can still get by.   And it’s amazing to have a full couch again.  You can truly sit a few people there now to watch TV!  And I like having a chaise option to sit in.  Sometimes you don’t want to chill in the chair, right?

On the weekend before chemo, on Saturday, July 14, Larry and I happily made it out to the Hollywood Bowl.  We’d had to miss our first planned show around July 4 as we just weren’t feeling good enough to make it, but Larry’s made huge progress in feeling back to normal, at least as much as he can.  It was a huge happiness to make it to the Bowl this time though, as the performers were Christopher Cross, Kenny Loggins, and Michael McDonald.   Yep, the Kings of Yacht Rock were all together, and the songs and performances were amazing.  AMAZING!  And that place was sold the fuck out, as obviously many are unashamed in their love of smooth pop rock!

Anyway, that concert was a nice thing to have right before heading into chemo.  We got through the week of chemo with its ups and downs, but this isn’t really the place to go into all of that.  Just know that Larry made it like a champ, and he will continue to fight to be free of this cancer.  His youth will be an asset and we’re going to take advantage of that in this fight.

So on Friday night, Mila and Sveta dropped by and it was just a blast.  We had dinner, talked, drank wine (well, Sveta and I did), watched TV (showed Sveta the first episode of Pose, which is one of our favorite recent shows as it’s glorious) and just overall had an amazingly fun evening.

On Saturday morning, Larry & I went for a brisk walk around Glendale, and Brand Blvd was shut down in advance of the annual car thing they do here.   So here are some pics of that:

This weekend, we had yet another Hollywood Bowl concert in store!   On Saturday, July 21, it was a screening of the movie Jaws accompanied by the Hollywood Bowl orchestra.  As a reminder, Jaws is a fantastic movie, and even with it being 40+ years old, it still thrills and kicks ass.  Seeing it with a giant crowd makes it even more fun, as it was clear there were some who weren’t ready for some of the scares.   Chief Brody’s snap to attention when the shark nearly takes his arm off is still fantastic.

And now it’s today!  We just came back from seeing Mamma Mia! Here We Go Again! and gotta say…it WAS FANTASTIC.  So much fun, they got some of the deeper ABBA cuts into the song (“Andante, Andante” was a particular delight), the new members of the cast portraying the younger versions were amazing, CHER was wonderful, and the story ended up being very poignant.  The ending scene might have made me cry just a LOT.  But then there were the upbeat numbers to “Waterloo”, “Dancing Queen”, and happily, “Super Trouper” that just made my heart swell with happiness.  ABBA is the fucking best and will always be.  And I’ve heard that Cher is going to release an album of ABBA covers and that just makes me so happy.  Anyway, go see it, you’ll be very happy you did so.

Finally – I have to share that my Daily Double clue from my game way back in 2016 ENDED UP IN THE 2018 JEOPARDY DAILY CALENDAR!!!  And it’s today!   And I’m so stoked.  I had seen my super bestie from the taping (Vicki) had posted a few weeks back in the J! group that her clue had showed up in the calendar.  I had bought the 2017 calendar thinking maybe my clues would be in it, but I think that the production schedules of that never would sync up – so it makes sense our clues wouldn’t show up until 2018.   So I was motivated to find a copy of the calendar (got it on eBay) and quickly flipped through it to find anything that looked familiar…and there it was on July 22!   It’s not correct that it was a Final Jeopardy (I WISH), but still, I’m psyched that my question made it:

This Guy

You may have seen some of the Facebook posts I’ve put up over the last month or so having to do with Larry.   We’re going through what we’ll have to call our “cancer period.”  Yeah, Larry has cancer.  More accurately, he has colorectal cancer which spread from his colon to his liver.   Fortunately, it has not spread beyond the liver.   Spreading to the liver is the typical place that colon cancer travels to if it does spread, so right now we’re dealing with “run of the mill” colon cancer that’s spread.   We obviously are relieved it hasn’t spread further.   There’s lots of emotion right now about the whole situation – some of it is fear, some of it is anger, and a lot of it is hope.  Lots of the latter, honestly, but there are days when the other emotions can threaten to overwhelm hope.   I don’t like those days.

Larry’s going to get his chemotherapy port installed on Tuesday.  A port allows a much more efficient way to administer chemo and take blood without having to destroy a person’s veins.   Also, chemo can’t go directly into veins as it’s toxic.   He’ll then start chemotherapy shortly thereafter.   We have gone to get second opinions at another specialist doctor at UCLA and then another at City of Hope.   We think the therapy will be folfox avastin but City of Hope’s proposal was to do something called folfoxiri avastin.   Basically, it seems that folfox avastin is a ‘doublet’ treatment while folfoxiri avastin is a ‘triplet’ treatment.   You’re getting more drugs injected into you in the triplet and it’s much more aggressive at fighting the lingering cancer in the liver, but of course the toll is greater.   The City of Hope doctor believes Larry’s age will be an asset here and he’d be able to respond well to it.  So we’re currently in that stage of running that information by our current oncologist at UCLA/Burbank to see if he agrees.

All of these things are a lot to deal with.  Some days are better than others, emotionally.  Send out good vibes into the world for Larry, for everyone.  This diagnosis is so fucking messed up – he’s 43 and diagnosed with colon cancer.   You’re not even advised to get a colonoscopy on a regular basis until 50, although we’ve been learning that guidelines were recently changed advising it at 45, and thoughts are that it may even go lower because there are more and more incidents of early colon cancer being observed.

I’ll try to keep updates coming either here or on Facebook – the good vibes do help, as do the stories of people beating this.

2 Years and Still Going Strong

Technically, our anniversary is Monday, but who wants to go out and celebrate on a Monday night?  Not these two 40-ish queens.  So we celebrated last night by going out to a restaurant neither of us had gone to before called The Little Door.   I found it online when searching for cool anniversary places and this ended up being a HIT.  It’s a French restaurant on 3rd a little bit west of the Grove, and it’s amazing.   I wouldn’t call it cheap though, so certainly a place you go to when you want to have a nice dinner at a corresponding price.

Everyone was super friendly – our waiter was French and couldn’t have been more accommodating or helpful.  We got a bottle of Pinot Noir that was delicious as all get out, and then started with an appetizer of duck foie gras and creme brulee.  Possibly a strange combo but man, those two really do go together.   I ordered a filet mignon that was delectable while Larry got lamb chops that he loved.  For dessert, I had a chocolate pot du creme (pudding, I guess?) and Larry had coconut cheesecake – we were both very satisfied.

So if you need a great French restaurant while in LA, I highly recommend The Little Door.

And if you find yourself married, I hope you’re lucky like I am and are married to someone like Larry.   Next month will be the 10-year anniversary of when we first met.   Crazy how time flies but the life we’ve lived and adventures we’ve had just keep on coming.  This year is no different and by the end of it (fingers crossed), we’ll be in our new home!

Saturday, April 28, 2018 – The Little Door

ABBA, Perfect Day, Dirty Computer and More

Before we head out to see Avengers: Infinity War and return 4 hours later or however long the movie is, I thought I’d post about some random things because why not.

I am liking my slight redesign and tweaking of the website.  I crafted that new header and a new favicon and found a plugin or two to help me modify my site to a way that is more me – so that includes more red all around.

If you didn’t take note, this past week contained the Perfect Date…per Miss Rhode Island from Miss Congeniality.  Honestly, I have to agree with her as in Los Angeles this week, the weather was gorgeous.  Sunny, windy, a nice warmth during the day but not too hot, while just enough of a chill at night.  Perfect!

I fucking love that movie.  It still trips me out that the first movie was set in San Antonio and released while I too lived in San Antonio.   Then the sequel was set in Las Vegas and released while I too lived in Las Vegas!  Stop stalking me, Sandra Bullock!  🙂

In other crazy-ass news, ABBA tells us yesterday that they’re “reuniting” and going to perform together for a television special in December and TWO NEW SONGS will be released and I can just fall over in joy now.

ABBA Is Officially Reuniting—And Recording New Music!

They’re not exactly going to be touring together though, as while I think they were able to deal with each other and get along well enough to make some new music, that goodwill isn’t enough to deal with each other all the time.  Some Digital Avatar experience will be happening and just tell me how much money is necessary as that is just fine with me.

Janelle Monáe’s new album, Dirty Computer, came out yesterday as well, so apparently music bliss was on the menu.  I’ve had it on repeat throughout the day yesterday and gotta say…I fucking love it.  From the opening track, “Dirty Computer”, which has a Brian Wilson harmony on it, to the already released singles which I love, to the new track “Screwed” which is hilarious and inspiring…the entire album is just a feeling and vibe that makes me happy.  I liked a review I read that indicated this album may be the first time we see the real Janelle Monáe as she doesn’t have the Cindi Mayweather character in this like she did in her two previous (awesome) albums.

In addition to loving the album, I was able to get tickets to see her at the Greek Theater in June.  SO EXCITED.   Nicki and Rekha will be joining in on the fun too.   Took a bit of finagling random codes and such on the ticketmaster site as it’s still in “presale” mode.   My Citi Cardmember presale didn’t really help at all this time like it did with Madonna tickets, as there was nothing available, but the Artist Presale definitely did!   Finally was able to get front of  Section C tickets – we’re going to be in the back section, but the price was right ($60/each), and the Greek isn’t that big of a venue, so all seats will be good!

Okay, probably need to wrap this up for now.   Larry and I are celebrating our second anniversary tonight at a French restaurant I found online in West LA, so hoping it is as good as expected (reviews certainly indicate it will be) and a nice night is had by all.  I’ll check back in with thoughts on the movie (and other movies we’ve seen in the meantime since A Quiet Place) and also keep retrofitting my site’s existing content as the migration wiped out a lot of my recent galleries.  As I find them, I fix them, and I’m back to late 2016 in terms of fixing things.  It’s funny as I do that and see posts I’d long forgotten about.   I love that I have this record.

I’m a Re-Run!!!

I never wanted to dare to dream I’d be a re-run, but here we are.  The day has come!   My 2016 one-and-done is airing (has aired) tonight, and hells yeah, let’s see if we can change the past and not have me bet so much money on Final Jeopardy because my brain completely shut down?

I’ve finally been able to start watching the show more regularly than before – it’s tough to do so at times, but it can’t be denied how fun it is watching Jeopardy!.